What's up, everyone? This is Stefan from projectlifemastery.com coming
to you guys from a beautiful little island in Thailand right now. It's called
Ko Lae, and it's literally the smallest island I've ever been on. You can literally walk
across it in about a minute. I spent most of the day ... We took a boat and went to Ko
Phi Phi Don, and went snorkeling, and we went to Maya Bay, which is where the movie "the Beach"
was filmed with Leonardo Di Caprio, one of the most beautiful beaches in the world.
Went to hang out with monkeys, and just been having and awesome day. It's been great
for about a half hour. I want to make sure that I get off this island, because I
don't want to be stranded here. I thought I'd take out the camera and shoot a video
for you guys
and answer one of the AskStefan questions. Now the question that I have is from someone named
Claus Schmidt, and the question, I don't have it actually in front of me, but the
question was, "Did your friends and family laugh at you and make fun of you when you
originally shared your goals on your YouTube channel and on your blog back in 2012?"
Just so you're clear on what he's referring to, back in 2012 is when I started
projectlifemastery.com and my YouTube channel. I primarily and I
still use Project Life Mastery as a way
to be accountable, to declare my goals, to share my life. Just by publicly
declaring my goals, it forces me to be accountable and step up and achieve them.
Did people laugh? Did people judge me? Did people make fun of me? The answer to
that is actually no, but yes. People didn't explicitly judge me or make
fun of me to my face or anything like that, and I think one reason for that
is you have to understand before 2012, I was already doing a lot of online marketing and already
had a fair level of success in my life. Maybe I didn't outwardly
have a nice car or apartment, but by that point in my life I was still doing
really, really well. I had achieved financial freedom. I was making
at least over $60,000 to $100,000 a year just from online marketing, and was doing really well. Before
that, though,
I remember when I was 21 years old and I left the family business,
I was working for my dad. I decided to quit that business and then go start a dating
coaching business with two friends called Lifestyle Transformations.
Previously before that I was a very shy person. That's how most of my family knew me before then. I
definitely ... It wasn't something that my dad really approved of back then,
but you know what? You can't live your life
worrying about what other people think. You have to live your life for yourself,
making sure that you're doing what makes you happy. Because if you're making everyone
else happy, but you're not making yourself happy, then what's the point of it
all? There's no point in doing that. You have to make sure that you make the
right decisions that are best for you and your life. If other people don't
like that, that's okay. You have to be okay with that. The truth is, not
not everyone's going to agree with you. Not everyone's going to approve of the decisions that you
make, but you have to do what's right for you,
what feels right, and what ultimately is going to help you create the life that you
want, the vision that you have for your life. Despite that, I kept moving
forward. I've had a lot of adversity throughout my life, a lot of
judgement, a lot of negativity, a lot of rejection, but after a while, you just
become numb to that. You become desensitized towards what other people
think of you. That's essentially what's happened throughout my life, because that
was one of the only ways that I could actually overcome the shyness and the fear and insecurity
that I had was actually to purposely go out there and face those rejections
and fears, and purposely try to find ways to put myself in situations where
I'd be in awkward or uncomfortable situations, and being able to move
forward from that. I think that builds a lot of your confidence as well. Now back in 2012,
though, when I first posted my life and my goals and everything,
another reason why a lot of people at that time didn't really make fun of me or
anything is because I've always been very conscious about surrounding myself
with the right people. I've always believed that who you spend time with is
who you become. It's really important to surround yourself with
people that are positive, that are supportive of you.
If you have people in your life that are negative, that are pulling you down, that
are making fun of you, and judging you, and laughing at you, then these aren't the
people that you want in your life. Even if they're on Facebook, if they're on Facebook
and they're making fun of you and stuff like that, why are you friends with them?
Why would you want those people around you in your life? I'd be
personally
delete and eliminate those people from your life, because it's almost like you
got to pull weeds out of your garden.
If you have this beautiful garden, one or two weeds can destroy the whole thing.
You have to be very careful of that. Whenever there is negativity or
people that are holding you back in your life, you have to be quick to eliminate
that. If it's friends, if it's family ... Friends, it's challenging.
I've been there before. I have friends from high school that I used to be close
with that I had to distance myself from over a period of time, because we
just weren't aligned. I remember, actually, when I really wanted to change my life
and become more outgoing and social, a lot of the friends that I had back then, they
just wanted to stay at home and play video games. I just knew that wasn't what I
wanted anymore. I wanted to be free from that. I wanted to evolved. I
wanted to develop my social skills and confidence. I knew that to get to
where I wanted to go, I couldn't hang out with friends that just wanted to play video games on Friday and
Saturday night. I had to find people that were more
outgoing, that were more social, that were more confident, be around them, and distance myself, unfortunately, from a
lot of the friends that didn't really have the characteristics,
or the division, or the same alignment of goals and habits and
behaviors and all that sort of stuff than what I really wanted. When it comes to family,
though ... I only got a few more minutes, because they're actually calling me, but when it comes to family,
family is a tough one, because you can't just eliminate them from your life
but you can distance yourself. I remember for me just living
at home when I was young, one of the best decisions I ever made,
I'm so grateful for, and I'm sure many if you guys can relate to this as well, has been
moving out of your parents' house. I just remember for myself, living with you
parents, at times you get frustrated with each other, annoyed,
or maybe
your parents have certain rules and stuff, and that can kind of limit you from really
growing in your life. When you decide to move out, you become more independent,
you get to make your own decisions, and it's a really good place to be. I just
remember for myself, that was a big decision for my life. Then the great
thing is, once you move out you can see your family and
spend time with them more on your terms. If you have people in your family that
are negative and not supportive of you, then you can still hang out with those people when you
see them and what not, but I would just consciously distance myself from them, at least
for a period of time so that you can really focus on achieving your goals and
making them happen. The funny thing is, eventually once
you achieve massive success in your life, all of those people that might have
laughed at you or made fun of you or judged you or thought certain things,
they won't be thinking that anymore. Sure enough, they'll actually all come to you
and want to know exactly what you're doing, and want to learn from you, and benefit from
you as well. I can relate to that as well. Once I started having massive
success and doing these amazing things, all of a sudden all my family members, my cousins, my aunts, my
uncles, my brother, sister, all of them wanted to know what I was doing.
Sure enough, a lot of them got into Kindle publishing and went through my courses,
and they totally treat me and respect me on a much different level now as well.
Same thing with a lot of old friends, a lot of friends from high school,
people that might even just be acquaintances, they'll start reaching out to you and whatnot. It's
really kind of amazing how that can happen. That's kind of a unique experience
that you go through once you achieve massive success is the results speak for
itself.
People don't really judge you or make fun of you or anything like that
at that point. Overall, the message that I have for you is just get over
what people think of you. Part of being a confident successful person
is being the kind of person that is unfazed by that, that just is unaffected
by that. They live their purpose. They do what they feel is right,
make decisions that are based on the greater good, what they want to
serve in the world, and also what's right in their heart.
As you become more successful, in many ways you actually
get more criticism, more judgement, more negativity, but it's more so people that
might be jealous of you, or insecure, or threatened, or just you become
more of a target, in some ways as well. You have to be able to
deal with that also, if you want to have a lot of success in your life and not be
affected by it. There's people out there that don't like me. I don't know why. I've
never met these people before. Maybe it's something that I said or did, or maybe how I live my
life. Who knows, but you can't let that affect you. Someone
that's on the internet who you have no idea who that person is, and it's ...
I kind of view the internet sometimes as just kind of this fantasy world and not really
as real life, because it just feels like a different universe and everything. That's something that comes
with the territory. I think just developing your confidence in who you
are, and just doing what you feel is right, as long as you stay true to that,
yourself, and you can look yourself in the mirror and feel good about yourself, that's
ultimately the most important thing. Don't let anything like that
hold you back, stop you from sharing your goals, your life. You want your
friends, the people in your life to support you, to cheer you on, to like your
posts on Facebook, cheer you on with your goals and support you. If they don't,
then maybe you have the wrong people that you're surrounding yourself with. That's another
thing to think about as well. I've ranted now for about ten minutes. Hopefully I can get off
this island now, but hopefully you guys also enjoyed this video.
I feel really blessed and grateful just having this chance to be able to
communicate with you guys, and share my message, and answer your questions, and
be able to connect with you. Looking forward to seeing what you guys
think of this video, and I got some more videos coming for you guys soon, but I'm going to get
going now. Make sure to like and leave a comment below,
and I'll talk to you guys soon. Take care. Hey, this is Stefan. Thank you so much for watching this
video. If you enjoyed this, then please hit the like button below, leave a
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