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WRONG: Being “Nice” Is Actually a GOOD Thing


alright what's up guys big mark here I
want to share something with you that
has dramatically changed my life in the
last few months okay and so and I hope
this can help you as well
this has just like a light bulb moment
went off like the third eye okay so I'm
gonna try to explain this the best I can
on this video I've never explained it or
talked about it before on my youtube
channel so this is a very first time and
I think this could help you if you apply
it alright and that is practicing
kindness okay I know it sounds a little
weird but you know because shouldn't we
always be kind anyway or Mark aren't you
kind you weren't kind before well of
course I was but I'm talking about
taking things to a whole new level and
being nice to people okay so as we go
through our entrepreneurial journey you
know we make more money we become more
successful we drive a nicer car we have
a nicer house people can change when
they obtain those things I've seen it
they've changed you know one one moment
they they're like this when they start
and then once they have all these
followers and money and and something's
changed they're just kind of like
whatever you know it's like the ego kind
of got to them alright
about a year ago my mentor talked about
this and he's a very wealthy man and he
talked he said he said be nice I really
didn't get it at that time you know
because of my ego it was just so big and
and you know
when I started my journey here about a
year ago coming on to YouTube and I've
been an entrepreneur for her for a long
time for 20 years but in the last 10 11
months or so things have really
dramatically changed financially
okay we've purchased a new car we're
moving to Florida Sarasota Florida and
we're getting a house that's probably
twice the size of this house that we
have now and for the last few months my
income is just it just keeps going up
it's like quadrupled right and I had a
tendency at first when I started to see
this success and that was to feel like I
was just better than everybody else and
how Ananda's hotshot entrepreneurial guy
which I don't feel like I am and I would
see people and be around people that
didn't have the same mindset that I had
and I would feel like my ego would just
take over and I'd feel like I didn't
have to give them a time of day I didn't
I didn't have to say anything I didn't
have to be kind I didn't have to be nice
and and I felt like that at the
beginning but then something changed and
I got some advice and that was to
practice kindness and so for the last
few months I've been doing that and I've
been doing it in a way where I'm not
asking I'm not expecting anything in
return
okay I'm just being that natural person
that I am because by nature I am a kind
person I am a nice person and for so
long I felt that that was a weakness and
I think that's we if we're not nice we
might feel like be not not not being
nice as a weakness and that we need to
be more nice and
it's like because we have a hard time
accepting ourselves for who we really
are and so I was looking at it like a
negative matter of fact I bought a book
that said how not to be nice you know
and I didn't like the book and it really
started to click with me I started to
realize how there's all these
influencers out there there's some on
YouTube and I watched their videos and
people that have written books and stuff
and I listened to the way they talked to
people and I realize you know I don't
really follow these people I follow the
different guy they're the one that I
feel like I can resonate with the one
that's a little bit more kind and the
one that's a little bit more nice and so
if that's your natural tendency is to is
to be kind and to to be respectful and
to be generous what are those magical
qualities that you have I'm telling you
right now they're not weaknesses in the
last two or three months I've been doing
this and it tripped me out at the first
of it I was I was thinking like have I
changed or have people changed because
by just you know before I just felt like
I was just big egomaniac this is like a
long time ago in and people had just
felt like they just looked at me
differently and and so I switched it up
a little bit okay I just stopped having
that fear of what people are going to
think about me and that there was a
point where I felt like being kind and
being nice to people was wrong and this
is especially important when it comes to
business you know I said the nice guy
always finishes last and all see I don't
believe in that I think that's a bunch
of BS now when it comes to business
especially when you're exchanging money
be a local business you know as a matter
of fact I purchased a new phone
yesterday and I was down at the celli
replace it doesn't matter where you are
I call the collection company and they
were just able to work with me better
again I'm not asking I'm not expecting
anything in return
I'm just trying to just trying to be
kind just trying to be generous and
offer more and create more value for
people have you ever asked somebody hey
how's your day going how are your kids
how's your family how long do you plan
on being in town you know what are you
what are your goals what do you do for a
living and not expecting all everybody
to think I'm a hotshot and they're gonna
ask me what I'm doing for a living
okay and what I found is that I started
to like people I started to like more
people that were not like me I know it
sounds weird
you know we're like oh I'm just gonna
hang out with the people that are
like-minded and and and just go to
events and just hang out with those
people cuz cuz they get it and all this
stuff no no no no no I'm starting to
like people that are the opposite
because for the longest time you know I
just felt like oh you don't know what's
going on man you're stuck at this gob
you don't have the mindset dude you're a
loser you know and oh whatever I don't
have to talk to you I don't have to give
you the time of day you know you're
gonna die at this job anyway and no no
no that's just I had feelings of that
though you know when I'm when I started
this journey that you know I felt that
way and because I wanted to do something
different so there therefore I felt like
I had to
have a different personality have a
different behavior towards people
but since practicing the kindness for a
while now people have changed the way
they are with me and but but I think
really I'm the one that that's changed
and I feel so blessed I'm happier now
it's liberating the feeling how when you
have more confidence when you feel like
you know who you are you accept it and
you know great things are gonna come
your way and you know I again I never
explained this before but it's a
revelation right okay it's not gonna
change the world or anything but if you
want to change the world if you want to
impact other people and make people's
life's better then why are you cramming
it down you know why are you pushing so
hard and you know you've got followers
they've got people to pay you and stuff
and you know or maybe for coaching and
we're going to potentially buy your
services you know why do you have to
just you know maybe you got a my dad
said you got to be a dick sometimes you
know to get what you want do you I don't
want to be like that so why why would I
try to be like that and the thing is
don't get me wrong guys sometimes this
sarcastic using profanity talking crap
you know being a hard-ass telling you
know tell yelling at people screaming at
people on your videos and stuff that
works for some people but if that's not
how you really are
it's just gonna be a flop you're you're
not going to see those results and it's
gonna confuse you you know you're gonna
say well I don't get it I was telling
people to do what they got to do well
how come I'm not making the sales right
how come I'm not attracting people it
may be because that's not really who you
really are inside so I could go on and
on about this the main thing to take
away is that you know I've been
practicing kindness and being nice it
sounds funny right it sounds hilarious
well you should practice being nice mark
right well you're right and I generally
I am and that for the longest time of
wondering how come people remember my
name all the time I was talking to my
wife how come they remember me they they
know my order by heart I don't have to
tell them if I go somewhere to order
food or something and it was just
confusing for so long it was because I
didn't those were times where I didn't
care and I could just be myself so I'm
just telling you guys if by nature you
are a warm kind-hearted person and you
enjoy being nice and brightening
people's days keep doing that keep doing
that no matter how successful you become
no matter where you are financially no
matter if you're driving what kind of
car I don't know don't let it get up
here enjoy it enjoy your lifestyle but
don't change just because you think you
are better than people because you know
what remember you were probably once
there too
you were the one that was confused about
what direction to go in
you remember that maybe when you will
work in that job or
when you just didn't have anything you
were you ran out of money you don't know
what to do lost we've all been there
okay we're all the same we've just made
different decisions and it's just taken
some people more time to figure things
out so be nice be kind and I think your
life is going to become so much more
incredibly better alright big mark here
signing out and i'll see you guys on the
next video alright peace out
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