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Your Friends May Be Holding You Back From Your Success



hey guys Stephanie here from
projectlifemastery.com in this video I
want to share with you a question that I
received recently in a group coaching
webinar that I did and it's around a
challenge that I think a lot of people
face and I've experienced that well as
well at different points of my life and
this person was describing that he has
this desire to build a business to make
money online to make passive income and
he understands that it's going to take a
lot of focus and effort and
determination to achieve his goals and
be successful
the challenge is that he has a lot of
friends and peers and family members
that don't really get it you know I'm
sure you can relate to this you know a
lot of you know you build an online
business a lot of your friends or family
members kind of think you're weird or
strange or you know even me to this day
you know my mom you know when she meets
for her friends or people they asked you
know what does your son do and she's
like okay well he it's like a blogger
and he does these YouTube videos and
stuff and they they don't even think
that's a job they can guess this like
this weird weird thing that a lot of
people don't really get and understand
so I can relate to that as well but you
know his friends and his peers they had
different priorities than him you know
they just wanted to go out have fun you
know enjoy life party you know whatever
the things that they wanted to do but
here he is that he wants to build a
business and be successful and a part of
him understands that you need to make
sacrifices which really is my first
answer to it is you have to understand
that this has to become a priority for
you and in many ways if there's
something that you really want and you
want to commit to it
part of success and getting what you
want is knowing what you're gonna have
to give up in order to get it so you're
gonna have to make some sacrifices you
might you know have to you know work at
home on your Friday nights or Saturday
nights or on your weekends or evenings
that's what's required to build a
business to be successful right and
you're gonna have to say no to your
friends that just want to you know go
out party have fun and invite you up and
things like that okay so really my first
piece of advice is you have to
prioritize this you have to make it more
important than anything
if you want to be successful at it and
you have to make sure that's a higher
priority than just having fun and you
might have to say to your friend saying
you know what listen I love to which
I've done many times but I've got it
work I've got to build my future right
now I've got to build that financial
freedom that I want and guess what they
might not understand it right you might
grow a little bit distant from a lot of
those friends and it could be even
challenging at times as well but you
have to keep yourself focused on what
you want and not let anything else
distract you from that you have to know
what you want and more than that why you
want it have compelling enough reasons
that are gonna pull you and drive you
towards what it is that you want you
know I remember for me I would be an um
I built my first online business in
Southeast Asia I remember going to
Thailand and Laos and Cambodia and
Vietnam and I was broke right and I was
just you know they're just surviving off
whatever little money that I had and I
was living in hostels and I'd have to
share these hostels with 12 other people
there'll be bunk beds and typically
people that go to these hostels they're
not like me they're not trying to build
an online business or are there to work
there more there to have fun so I still
remember the many nights that I had I'd
be you know working in the hostel or I'd
be like one o'clock in the morning and
I'd be on the bunk bed you know with my
laptop like learning search engine
optimization or something like that well
people would like come home drunk and
you know after the club and stuff like
that and I would just be there focused
on working but you know what I didn't
care I wasn't distracted by that at all
you know I knew that if I just met
people and have fun that only be just
just be temporary I wanted to create
something that was lasting something
that would allow me to have the freedom
to do whatever the hell it is that I
wanted in my life because I knew that if
I just met someone or befriended these
people or had friends that there weren't
real friendships you know I'm you meet
people when you're travelling but you're
only gonna hang out with him for a few
days before they go back home or you go
back home you know I wasn't I wasn't
seduced by that temporary pleasure and
satisfaction I was more after the
ultimate dream of fulfillment of what my
life would ultimately be like
you know and that's just an example of
having that outcome be more important
than the distraction and being able to
say no and take yourself away from that
okay
now the other piece that I want to share
with you as well that's very important
in this that you really have to look at
and this is a challenging thing to look
at but it's who you're surrounding
yourself with your peers who you spend
time with is who you become okay who you
spend time with is who you become
because the people in your life that you
surround yourself with are gonna
influence who you are more than anything
because we all have a desire and need of
connection of love from different people
in our lives and we'll lower our
standards or raise our standards based
on the other level that other people are
playing the love the game of life act
right so you have to be really careful
but who you're surrounding yourself with
you know I know for myself once I got
into business or making money online a
lot of my friends are online marketers
they're entrepreneurs or people that are
doing incredible things in the world
just because I gravitate more towards
that but I've also consciously selected
these people in my life as the friends
the peers that I want because they drive
me and they pushed me to be more
successful you know for me I'm friends
with you mastermind calls and
accountability calls and you go to
coffee shops together we work on our
business our phone calls are talking
about cool things that we learn or
things going on in our business I have
friends that are extremely healthy and
fit people that are Fitness models and
bodybuilders that I spend time with
people that have incredible
relationships because when I'm around
these types of people people that are
happy fulfilled spiritual guess what
happens I raise my game up to that level
as well and now we're growing together
there's no friction whereas if you're
going down this path but you have all
these other people that are in many ways
holding you back not consciously but
more so because you don't want to lose
their love you don't want to lose their
connection you're gonna lower your
standards just to be able to fit in just
be able to hang out with them right so
if you have people that are depressed
they're unhappy they're lazy that maybe
as an employee they're broke that don't
have great relationship
that are overweight and you surround
herself with people like that and the
challenge is you're gonna start to drop
and lower your standards as well you
know it's almost like if you want to
play a great sport right the way that
you get better at sports is you play
with people that are at a higher level
than you that are performing at a higher
level because when you're around that
you have to push yourself harder just to
stay con the corner of the field with
them you have to raise her standards
right if you had a bunch of friends that
are really successful doing awesome
things you know and those are your
friends then you're gonna feel this
internal pressure and drivin yourself
to raise your a-game to be up that level
so that you can be like them have that
connection and relate to them on a
deeper level as well but if you're
around people that you know are playing
the game and a much lower level and
you're playing it up here you're gonna
start to find yourself slowly dropping
down and lowering your standards as well
you know you go for dinner with your
friends and you know you're you're
incredibly healthy and fit peer group
they order salads and they're drinking
wheatgrass and lemon water all that sort
of stuff
and then you're around people that are
obese and don't take care of their
health they're ordering cheeseburgers
and hamburgers and french fries all that
sort of stuff you know pop you know you
hang out with them you're gonna notice
that your eating habits changed to start
to eat like them as well
right because you're gonna feel weird
eating a salad in front of everyone else
is eating everything else or drinking or
whatever it might be but you're around
people that are eating salads and stuff
you're gonna feel weird eating a
hamburger and fries so that's the power
of this you know I had a really powerful
experience I went to Las Vegas to the
amazing selling machine seminar a few
weeks ago and I got invited as a part of
a special VIP group with Matt Clark and
Jason Kass and back and a lot of the
speakers at the event did these really
highly successful individuals and what
they did was they picked us up in a
limousine and we you know had champagne
and everything and I didn't really even
know any of these people but in the
limousine drinking champagne with them
and we're celebrating and they took us
go-karting you're right and they covered
the go-karting with everything and they
took us for this awesome dinner where
they rented this room and it was a
really awesome experience because
you know typically for me a lot of my
friends and peer group you know I might
be one of the more successful ones out
of my friends but in this environment I
was one of the lower successful people
in the room you know I felt like it's
like a regular person around these guys
that were just doing such incredible
things that's kind of like a fly on the
wall and I'm like wow like these guys
are doing these incredible things and
I'm like wow you know I'd recognize this
guy from the internet all this sort of
stuff and some really cool feeling and
it's I guess it's an experience people
have them they meet me as well and look
up to me in a way but it's just really
cool being around that because when
you're around that you get really
inspired when you're around people that
are doing really really well and
incredible things it motivates you to
raise your game as well and so is you
know being a part of mastermind groups
and that's why I created my group
coaching mastermind as well is for
people to be around that because a lot
of people their day to day lives they
don't know anyone that's successful a
lot of people don't know people that are
wealthy they don't know people that are
really happy they don't know people that
are healthy and fit they don't know
people that are making money online and
so when you're doing it by yourself it
can feel like a very lonely road and so
you need to surround yourself with
people that have what it is that you
want maybe they don't even have what you
want but at least on the path towards it
they're on the journey a really powerful
story and when it shirts you guys I
heard from Tony Robbins and Tony Robbins
was invited to speak for the US Marines
and the general came to him asked him to
speak and it was a speech about raising
your standards and Tony Robbins thought
raising her standards the Marines have
the highest standards of anybody in the
country and he agreed to go and speak so
he goes to these Marines as I guess a
couple thousand of them and he gives
this incredible speech and it really
inspires them and it lifts them and they
get really motivated and excited and it
was just an amazing presentation and
then afterwards the general says to him
too Tony says you know that was a really
incredible presentation and I know that
these soldiers here today were really
moved and inspired by you and that their
standards are gonna go to a whole new
level but he said you know one thing
that frustrates me and then I have a
hard time
with is that I know that a lot of these
soldiers you know right now they have
the highest standards that they're ever
gonna have right now in their life they
have to wake up at a certain time every
single day they have to make sure that
their bed is impeccable it's made
perfectly they got to make sure their
belt and their shoes and their their
physical activity and endurance and
stamina it has to be at a very very high
level and he said you know they have
such high incredible standards right now
but I know that when they leave here and
they go back home to their friends and
family that those standards are gonna
drop a lot of them get lazy they get
negative they get out of shape they go
broke they become depressed and he said
it really frustrates me he says why is
that
you know you've met a lot of people
you've met a lot of human beings why
does that happen is it that people are
just lazy do people need to be babysat
is this just the way that it is and Tony
looked at home has said no it's because
people's lives are a direct reflection
of the expectations of their peer group
I must say that again people's lives are
a direct reflection of the expectations
of their peer group when you surround
yourself with people that have high
expectations of you high standards
you're gonna raise your game in the case
the the US military you're in an
environment where there's high stain or
so you automatically raise your game
because those high expectations of your
peer group you go back to your family
and friends with lower standards lower
expectations human beings drop down to
that level as well that's the power of
this that's why you have to surround
yourself with people at a high level you
need to get in relationships the people
at a high level that are how you want to
be and you always need to find people
like that it doesn't mean that you can't
still hang out with the you know some of
your other friends or family members as
well but you have to be a little bit
more selective about who you're gonna
let into your life and surround yourself
with so I want to leave you with that
hopefully this video inspires you and
answers the question that the person
sent me but that's what I'd share with
you
I think it's something a lesson that we
all really need to apply more in her
life if we want to raise the razor our
game grow more contribute more have more
success or whatever it might be
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