How to Avoid Overwhelm: 5 Steps to Stop Spiraling Out of Control #Best Education Page #Online Earning

- Hey, what's up, team Flynn?

Pat here.

And in this video, you're gonna see five ways

that you can get back into the driver's seat

when life is spiraling out of control,

when things don't seem to be going the way you want them,

when everything's just getting out of hand,

when you feel like you don't have control anymore,

when you're stressed out and overwhelmed.

So, here we go.

Now the one thing I was taught

when I was building my business

was to always have a plan,

to build a business plan when you're creating something new,

to have a plan in terms of execution

when you're starting anything,

but the interesting thing I've learned about plans

is that things never go

according to the plan that you create.

And sometimes it's as simple as, well, you know,

you have to take a day off here

because of something like a family emergency.

So, you have to move that thing to the next week.

And those little things are easy to control.

But sometimes things get so out of hand

that you just want to freak out

and get frustrated and walk away.

So, this has happened to me several times in the past before

where things are just going out of control.

For example, when I got let go from my architecture job,

when my site was hacked back in 2013

when I was in San Francisco,

and the whole site was down for a whole single week,

or the time I got a cease and desist letter

for my online business,

and I thought I had to shut everything down,

or the time I made a site design change,

and I lost 50% of my podcast listeners in a single day,

or the time my son was born

weeks before my insurance was gonna kick in

because it was a pre-existing condition,

and I had just started a new job, so we were not smart,

and we didn't have health insurance,

and we didn't want to go to Cobra

because it was way too expensive and all this stuff.

Life was spiraling out of control,

but we were able to make it work.

So, like I said, in this video,

I'm gonna give you five different ways,

strategies, tips, tactics that you can use

to help you actually just stay

in the driver's seat a little bit

when life is seemingly spiraling out of control.

But before any of that, sort of tip number zero here,

if you will, is the fact that it's okay to get frustrated.

I think a lot of people assume

that when they get frustrated,

they're already on a wrong path.

I think it's okay to get frustrated.

This is something I'm teaching my son

where if something doesn't go the way you want it to,

it's totally okay to get upset, to be frustrated.

That's just a natural reaction

and sometimes relieving some of that pressure in that way,

not yelling, not hitting or hurting anybody

but just getting frustrated.

It's totally okay.

But where the problem lies

is when that frustration gets in the way of you

trying to finally solve that problem.

And so, yes, a little bit of frustration,

a little bit of stress, that's natural,

that's okay, that's expected.

Expect it.

But just don't let it affect what you should be doing next,

which are these next five things right now.

So, let's count this down.

Let's start with number five.

Number five, number one is to just

(breathes deeply)

take a breath and slow down a little bit

because sometimes when we're in the middle

of all this chaos, a breath can save us

because we can then start to slow down.

Our brain psychologically starts to spiral out of control,

our heart rate is racing,

and sometimes it just takes a simple breath

to slow things down and realize

that while you're probably not

in any sort of immediate danger, a lot of times,

our brain is trying to think of the worst thing

that's ever gonna happen,

and I've done that many times before.

I still do that.

But when you actually slow down

and think about the reality of the situation,

you're probably going to be okay in most cases

for at least the immediate time

so that you can then to figure out a plan

to solve that problem

or to just get back in the driver's seat.

So, tip number five would be to just

(breathes deeply)

slow down, take a couple deep breaths

so that you can assess the situation and move forward.

Tip number four is to actually walk away from that

for a little bit.

Yes, it's probably the most important thing

that you need to be thinking about,

but a lot of times, when we're in that frustrated mindset,

when we have just slowed down and take a breath,

it's kind of impossible for us

to actually approach that problem

and actually try to solve it.

We need a little bit of time away from it

to distract ourselves so that we can kind of come back to it

in the right mindset to try and solve that problem.

So, walking away a little bit.

And by walking away, I don't mean like walk away

from your problems, what I mean is literally take a walk

or go read if you can or distract yourself with a podcast

or watch something like on Netflix really quick

just to kind of remove yourself from that problem

a little bit and just enjoy something in that moment

to potentially realize that hey,

the situation is probably not as bad as it may seem.

When I had gotten laid off, my sort of walk away

was to go and watch Back to The Future

because then I could think about wow,

I wish I had a DeLorean, so I can go back

and maybe pick a different job or something like that.

But in reality, it just made me feel like okay, well,

all the world's not bad.

I can escape in this little moment

and then come back to it

with a better head space soon after.

All right.

Tip number three, and this is the thing

that has helped me the most.

And I put a link up here in the corner to a video

related to creating a mastermind group.

And I think it's really important to do this ahead of time

before you have any sort of issues or problems

because a mastermind group,

whether that's a formal mastermind group

like the one I may tell you about up here in the car

that you can structure and have as a formal meeting

that you have with other people,

other like-minded individuals

who are gonna support each other

and support each other's goals over time.

You could do it that way

or just have a number of friends, shoulders to cry on,

people that you could speak to

who can help you walk through that problem

and potentially see it from an outside perspective

and give you some good advice

that may be impossible for you to come up on your own

being on the inside of that particular issue.

So, ideally, you'd have some people in mind

that you could go to and trust and kind of use

as sort of advice over time if things like this arise.

And hopefully you can offer that kind of support

if that person goes under a certain situation very similar

in their life too.

But what you do is talk to them.

Just be open.

Maybe take 'em out for coffee or something

and just sit down, chat with them about how you're feeling,

what's going on, and try to get their perspective

on things so that you can kind of see it on the outside.

A lot of times, those people are gonna be able

to offer help too, whether it's a person

that they could recommend to you

to help you solve that problem.

They, on their own, may have the ability

to solve that problem too.

Or at least if anything, it's getting stuff off your chest.

You've probably heard that before.

And again just having somebody to speak to

and to listen to yourself verbalize what's going on

is a great start to what the next step is,

which is tip number two or the second one we have left,

which is to figure out what your next steps are going to be.

And this is why it's really important

not to have a sort of reaction-based approach

to solving this problem, which is why it's important

to step away, why it's important to talk to other people.

A lot of times, if you act immediately

after this thing happens, whatever it is that it may be,

it may not be the right thing to do

because you are not in the right mindset to do it.

So, once you step away, take a couple breaths,

and speak to some people about it,

if you have anybody to speak to about it,

then the next step is to figure out,

okay, well, what is the next step going to be.

So, the reason this is here

after all that we've talked about,

taking a breath, stepping out a little bit

and doing something else, and even talking to other people

is because a lot of times, the big problem is,

people try to force their way through into a solution

or to react to a certain situation.

Sometimes those actions that we take when we react

isn't the best approach.

Sometimes we do need that time to think

and other people to offer advice

to be able to determine what those next steps will be.

Another big problem is we want to solve

the entire problem right away.

And oftentimes, that's not the way to solve the problem.

We need to figure out, okay, what are the next steps,

what's the next little thing that we can accomplish

to help us get to that point where we can then start

to solve that problem.

So, an example for me was in 2013

when my website had gotten hacked,

the first step, yes, obviously I wanted my whole site

to be back and everything to be back to normal,

but it wasn't going to happen.

So, the first step was, and I knew,

that okay, after talking to some people about this

and figuring it out, the first thing to do

would be to actually start talking to customer service

and also start talking to my audience

to let them know via my email list what was going on.

So, at least those things were taken care of,

and then giving myself a little bit of buffer

to be able to begin to handle that situation

and actually follow through into solving that problem.

And the interesting thing about that particular situation

was that each time we thought we solved the problem,

there was another problem that would keep the site down.

And what was supposed to be only a few hours of downtime

turned into over a week of downtime.

So, I learned a lot of lessons during that situation.

Number one, I actually was able to make my site

even more secure afterwards.

It was a big expensive lesson learned,

but it allowed me to fortify my website

a little bit stronger afterwards.

And now it's something that I don't have to worry about

at least the same kind of attack that we had.

So, we're all secure in relation to that now.

But the second lesson I learned

was just how valuable the email list was that I had

because that allowed me to realize that wow,

even if my site were to completely shut down,

I would still be able to set up shop

somewhere else afterwards, and that really validated

the idea of building an email list for me

beyond the whole communication with my audience to sell

and to drive traffic to my website.

Just the idea of having my audience in a place

that I can control and take wherever I need to go

was great as well.

And that actually pushed me to start building my email list

even further and doing a lot more to incentivize people

to get on that list because my list is my people.

That's you.

That way, I can take care no matter what people try to do

to my website, which all actually relates

to the final tip here,

which is to learn from what you've just went through.

So, the big thing here is to realize,

and it's easier said than done obviously.

I can always say if you're in the middle

of a crisis right now, hey, you know what,

you're gonna learn from this, you're gonna come out of it,

you're gonna be stronger.

Yeah, that's gonna happen.

You'll realize that later.

But you can't realize that right now.

And right now, the most important thing

is to just not freak out

and realize that there are likely people in your life

that can help and support you right now

and communities out there who've likely gone

through the same thing because, you know,

we're all not that special.

We don't each go through unique individual things

all the time.

A lot of times, the things that feel

like why is this happening to me,

like this is something that only I am going through

is likely something many, many other people

have felt as well, and especially in this world

of online business and entrepreneurship.

We all go through a lot of the same things.

And hopefully you've been able to learn from my mistakes

and my failures, which is what I talk about in my blog

at Smart Passive Income and on the podcast,

on the Smart Passive Income podcast.

I love talking about my failures

'cause they happen all the time,

and it's something that I've realized

that it's just a part of the process.

And so, looking back at my failures,

even though they didn't feel good,

and they were very worrisome,

and I felt like things were going out of control

at the time, I now know looking back

that those are just lessons being learned,

and that's just a part of the process too.

Almost sort of like a rite of passage.

Now obviously I don't want you to go through those things

and hopefully this video will help you if you do.

So, leave a comment below.

Tell me about your latest crisis

and how you are able to get through it

or hoping to get through it if you're in it right now.

And if you are, I just want to wish you the best of luck.

I'm here for you.

The community is here for you as well.

And hopefully this video will be helpful to you one day

if you don't need it right now.

But thank you so much.

I appreciate you.

Team Flynn for the win.

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