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everyone this is Stefan James from

Project life mastery to day I'm going to

share with you 10 decisions that I made

in my life that changed my life forever

see I believe it's our decisions that

shape our lives that the life you live

today is the result of specific key

decisions that you made at some point in

your life that led you down this path

and allow you to create the life that

you live today and I don't just believe

that we're victims of our circumstances

society our environment what other

people say and do I think that the

outside world can influence our lives

and influence the decisions that we make

but at the end of the day we all have

this incredible power and that's the

power to make a decision in this moment

you can use this power you can make a

new decision a new choice that can

change your life for the better and

sometimes when you make a new decision

in your life you don't see the impact of

that right then and there sometimes it's

not for a few weeks or months or even

years will you really look back at that

pivotal point in your life where you

made that decision and it changed your

life in so many ways I'm sure you can

look back at your life and see maybe it

was a few years ago 5 or 10 years ago

where you made a decision that has

created the life that you have today

maybe 5 or 10 years ago you made the

decision to start your own business and

to quit your job and that was a scary

and hard decision to make it required

faith and taking a risk and stepping

into the unknown but now today as a

result of that you're your own boss and

you have your own business and maybe you

have financial security and independence

because of that decision or maybe it was

to go to university and that led you

down the path where now today you've got

your dream job and you're doing everyday

what you love or maybe a few years ago

you made a decision to go to a certain

environment to a party or a bar or to

make a certain move to go up and

approach a stranger to talk to them and

introduce yourself and you met a special

person and now today that special person

is your boyfriend girlfriend or husband

and wife or maybe today you have a

beautiful family as a result of that

maybe you made a decision to quit your

job and because of that decision that

led you to what you're doing now today

or maybe you

the decision to move you know or to

change your body to go on a diet I don't

know what it might be but I'm sure if

you look back at your life there's been

key decisions that have created the life

you have and it also works in the same

way that if you have a life today that

you're not proud of you're not

passionate about you know you don't love

the home that you live in you don't love

looking to see how much money you've got

in the bank or you've got a job that

doesn't fulfill you or maybe you're in a

relationship that's not the best

relationship for you or you've got some

people in your life that not really

supporting you there might be toxic well

you're also responsible for that as well

because you made a decision a choice at

some stage in your life that has

resulted in this reality do you have

today

and I want to remind you though that you

have the power to change that then in

any moment you could end your

relationship and make a decision even

though it's scary it's hard I get that

it's not easy but it's in those moments

of decision that can change your entire

life and when you make a decision it

leads you in a new direction and that

direction leads you to a new destination

or your destiny so for me when I look at

my life

there's been key decisions that I've

made and I thought it'd be fun today to

share some of them with you to maybe

inspire you and show you what one

decision can make some of them small

decisions that I made in my life how

will that over time has transformed my

life and maybe it can inspire you to

make some new choices here by the time

you're done watching this video and to

set up your life the way you want

because I truly believe that we have

that power to create whatever kind of

life that we want for ourselves right

now we're in the process of creating our

future and it's what we do right now

today the decisions that we make that's

going to determine whether or not that

future five or ten years from now is an

amazing one filled with more joy and

fulfillment and success and abundance or

we can make the choices today or even

not deciding is also a choice right by

just choosing to settle in your life or

not take action or not do the things you

know you should do is also a choice that

you make but can very often lead to five

or ten years from now a life that we're

not proud of and the life that we're not

fulfilled by and the life that you know

might continue to be

the financial distress and challenges

that we can avoid I believe or do the

best that we can right now being

proactive and taking life by the horns

you know and really making those

decisions that we need to make so let me

share some of them with you

this is in no particular order it's

really hard to prioritize them so I'm

not gonna do that these are all

significant decisions I made in each

part of my life some of them you might

know and a lot of them you might not

know at all about me which I thought

would be very interesting to share one

of the first and most important

decisions I ever made in my life was the

decision to commit my life to

self-development self-development see I

got into South development when I was 17

years old before then I dealt with a lot

of depression a lot of anxiety and I was

incredibly shy I had a lot of challenges

in my life and if I didn't discover self

development who knows where my life

would be today I was going down a very

dark path and I'm not even sure if I

would be here and from a grace of God I

discovered self development I discovered

teachers of other people that were

inspirational and successful and they

gave me hope they gave this new belief

in my mind as soon as I discovered this

world of self development it gave me the

belief that anything is possible in life

that the only limits are the limits of

the mind now whatever I wanted in my

life I could create it that I could be

do have and experience and give anything

that I set my mind to that has 17 18

years old that if I wanted to be a

multi-millionaire I could that if I

wanted to build a successful business I

could do that that if I wanted to

attract an amazing relationship and find

the woman of my dreams and having a

beautiful amazing family that I could

achieve that that if I wanted to change

my body that I wanted to travel the

world no matter what it was self

development gave me the belief that I

could create anything I want my life and

that changed everything for me and what

gave me that belief was that there's

countless other examples of people that

have achieved their goals and their

dreams and achieved what I want and if

they could do it then I can too all I

got to do is learn from them model them

elicit their strategies their beliefs

their blue

and if I do what similar do what they

did in a similar way then I can get a

similar result so once I discover that

everything changed I discovered teachers

the old school teachers like Brian Tracy

and Jim Rohn and Wayne Dyer and Tony

Robbins and many many more that open my

mind up to these unlimited possibilities

in my life and then also what CELTA

moment did is it made me realize that no

matter what problem I have in my life

and there's problems that are yet to

occur in my life no matter what problem

it is I don't need to be worried or

concerned I don't need to be fearful of

my problems because whatever problem I

have there's a solution to it it's

solvable and I know this because every

problem that's ever existed there's been

millions of other people around the

world and throughout history I've also

had that exact same problem and they

were able to solve it not everybody does

but there are people that have and as

long as there are people that have

solved it then I can solve it too what

one man or woman can do another man or

woman can do I just got to read their

books I can find courses today today

it's a lot easier to solve your problems

than before because there's easier

access to information mentors coaches

courses books resources seminars there's

so much available that I could tap into

no matter what I'm going through in my

life so self development changed my life

in so many ways I've always believed

that self development is one of the most

important qualities to have in your life

because it forces you to have an open

mind if you're into self-development you

have an open mind you're open to new

ideas you're open to trying new things

you don't have a closed mind and one of

the most challenging things to have in a

relationship for example is one person

that has an open mind and the other

person has a closed mind because when

you have someone in relationship that's

closed off to wanting to change to

wanting to improve to wanting to get

better or try something new then it's

very difficult for anything to get

better in life part of what self

development does is it humbles you to

make you realize that you don't know

what you don't know that there are so

many levels of development in your life

that you have yet to experience and you

have to humble yourself to to be a

student

and to learn from other people and even

look at yourself in self-critical ways

and to be aware of where'd you're not

showing up and why you don't have what

you want and why you're not successful

yet and why you know why is it that I'm

lazy unite struggle being consistent you

know or why is it that I have this

pattern in my life or why is it that I

reacted in this way and got angry and

upset and disappointed and frustrated or

why did I judge that person or why do I

feel jealousy self development makes you

ponder and explore that to have

awareness of that to look at yourself

and to look for solutions for that so

that you're always making progress

in growing and improving in your life so

it's helped my relationship I've always

believed that if you got two people in a

relationship that are both open-minded

and willing to improve themselves you

can have an amazing relationship because

it will always get better and for me

because of self development every part

of my life has always gotten better and

better and better and better and will

continue to get better for the rest of

my life based on this one decision of

committing my life to self development

and obsessing over it and reading books

and learning as much as I possibly can

and not just for success not just for

money I'm talking about self development

of your mindset of your habits your

emotions your patterns your relationship

your health your spirituality every part

of your life and that's what I look at

as self development is the life mastery

blueprint of what I teach and what I'm

about is improving each area of your

life the second decision I made if not

the most important one was committing my

life to Christ see I would say recommit

II my life to Christ because when I was

born I grew up as a Christian Greek

Orthodox I was baptized when I was a

baby my family wasn't super religious we

went to church once or twice a year

Easter on Christmas but it wasn't until

more of my adult years and part of my

self development journey and path that I

started to explore my spiritual

development and that led me to studying

New Age spirituality led me to studying

all the different religions Christianity

Islam Islam Buddhism Taoism as much as I

could and what I recognized was that

there is a there is a limitation in self

development that limitation was I was

trying to fix and solve things in my

life through my mind and there's limits

of the mind and when I eventually

realized that there are some problems

and aspects of my life that can only be

solved with a higher power with

something beyond myself that I need

divine intervention to help and support

me in my life that's when everything

shifted for me because I was getting so

caught up in my head with all these

strategies without realizing there's

something more powerful that was missing

in my life and I think a lot of people

including myself we try to fill a void

within ourselves through material

through form through money success Fame

significance all these other things that

can't be filled because it's a spiritual

void and it's not until you surrender

and allow a higher power I call that God

to come into your life that it fills

that it's the only solution to it that

I've been able to find and for me being

a Christian and surrendering to Jesus

did Jesus Christ as my savior has

changed everything for me because it's

made me a better person it's made me a

more giving person a more generous

person

it's made me more loving more

compassionate more forgiving more

patient it's just changed my life in so

many credible ways and made me a better

person a better version of myself that

would not exist if it wasn't for my my

Christianity my faith and it's added a

new level of richness and meaning to my

life that no matter what I'm going

through my life you know when you know

that you've got this higher power you've

got God that loves you unconditionally

and is gonna forgive you no matter what

for your sins and and has created

everything including everything in your

life and then even the challenges and

difficulties in your life or a gift for

him to allow you to grow and to step

into your potential in life when you

have that faith in that belief

it changes the way you live your life

and it enriches everything and it

provides a new meaning and purpose that

no matter what you're going through

there's a purpose and a meaning from is

help me get through the most difficult

times in my life and it's something that

has made me very humble in my life to

realize that everything in my life is

because of God that my success

everything all the glory goes to this

higher power and it's created this

humility within myself that has also

changed my life in so many beautiful

ways and so for me that's something that

has shifted my life getting baptized in

the Jordan River where Jesus was

baptized by John the Baptist was pretty

incredible as well so my development

there has changed my life a lot

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the third decision I made and again not

in any particular order this is a big

one though was learning how to meet and

attract women the opposite sex improving

my social skills my confidence in my

relationships with women so the first

book that I read on self-development was

called double your dating by David

DeAngelo I read this book when I was 17

years old I got the e-book PDF of this

book and I printed it out read it seven

times and it changed my life in so many

ways at that stage of my life I didn't

care about success or money or anything

like that the biggest pain point that I

had when I was 17 was I was shy and I

wanted a girlfriend and I wanted to have

friends in my life I didn't care about

money or anything like that that wasn't

that didn't come to later in my life and

so when I was 17 years old I wanted to

solve this and I was very much behind

socially because I went to three

different high schools and I was always

the outsider and I got addicted to video

games and so I would escape reality and

just play video games and that made me

very antisocial because I missed out on

my social development as a kid where

other kids are going to parties and

interacting and hanging out after school

I just went home and played video games

I remember even I would spend my lunch

times in a lot of cases going to the

library or going to the computer lab to

put the play on the computer and be

alone because I was very uncomfortable

and awkward I didn't know how to

interact with other people and I got

bullied as a result of that too so I

felt a lot of pain and embarrassment

interacting and socializing so for me

when I committed myself to learning how

to improve my social skills my

confidence and meeting women everything

changed in my life and I had got

obsessed over that when as a teen years

old I met a group of men in Vancouver

Canada on Granville Street which is the

nightclub district of Vancouver at the

McDonald's during the daytime I met

these random guys on the message board

that were part of this community of

other men improving themselves as like a

mastermind and it changed my life coz

that day they became my mentors and my

role models and they're all older than I

was and I saw that day these guys that

would just go to the the mall they'd go

to a clothing store they'd go to a

coffee shop they'd walk

on the street and to see a woman or a

group of women and they wouldn't even

hesitate they'll just go up and start a

conversation and they'd be confident and

charismatic and the women would respond

back to them and a lot of cases that end

up getting a woman's phone number and

when I saw that it shifted my paradigm I

had a paradigm shift I was like how is

that even possible you only see that in

the movie and I realized that I need to

learn to do that

and I committed my life to that I went

out four days a week I approached

thousands of women I improved my

confidence my social skills my

communication skills a lot of how I am

today and how I communicate is because

of those days I overcame my fear to

approach women I overcame my fear of

rejection and became desensitized to

that and this unreactive to not be

affected by what someone would say you

know if they rejected me if they made

fun of me if they whatever I just be

very unreactive and live in my own

reality which I could cultivate it at

that time I learned how to speak on my

feet you know which is part of what I do

today I get to speak on my feet be witty

and and improvise and talk about

whatever and ultimately what it taught

me and it allowed me to be a more

attractive version of myself it made me

realize that this is that there are

certain characteristics and traits and

ways of being that biologically the

opposite sex is attracted to because we

all grew up in tribes and we all

biologically our purpose in life is to

procreate so that our genes we can

procreate with someone else that has

strong and good genes so that we can

ensure that our off our offspring and

our kids survive for many generations

and evolution continues and so women

typically biologically are more

attracted to men who are leaders and are

more confident and have strong genes and

they want to procreate with them because

it can ensure the survival of their

genes and the same way men are going to

be more attracted to certain women that

have great genes so that they can ensure

the survival as well but I learned that

I can improve who I was my confidence

are certain things that women respond to

someone that is comfortable with them

selves someone that does have an

abundance mentality that's not needy and

attached to things all the time someone

that is confident in charismatic and it

has purpose in their life and as

direction and is taking risks and going

for it all those things I can cultivate

in myself and become more attractive

which would allow women to be more

naturally attracted to me

and at first that's learning the

techniques and the pickup lines and then

I realized I just got to improve myself

and my life and then I'll attract the

right person to me

it also helped me get clarity on the

kind of woman that I wanted to attract

in my life sometimes you don't know what

you want until you date a variety of

different people and you see from your

dating process oh I like this I like I

don't like that and you can refine who

your ideal partner is and you'll learn

about yourself in the same way every

relationship that I had every person I

met I learned more about myself and that

was valuable to me too and it ultimately

allowed me to attract the most important

person in my life which is Tatiana

Tatiana has been the greatest blessing

and the greatest reward of my life and

if it wasn't for the development that I

did and the focus I put in this aspect

of my life I wouldn't have attracted

someone like that in my life

and vice-versa she was able to attract

the man of her dreams and I wouldn't

have become that man if I didn't go

through the journey that I went through

so I'm grateful for my focus in this

area in my life I think what it's also

done is as I've had success because I

had success in this area in my life and

started my self-development with

relationships I've always I've never

gone too deep and just into success

where I've lost what is available myself

development of my relationship my

spirituality and other aspects of my

life because I've always known and

believed that there's more available

there I think a lot of people they get

into success they just pursue success

and their self development support

success and I've always realized that

success has limitations to it that

there's more if I put more focus and

said to my relationship there's

different levels there that I can

develop an experience that I think a lot

of people don't even know and recognize

because success and money is more

measurable it's hard to measure how

great your relationship is and can be

so because I started my self-development

journey with my relationship and my

confidence I've always gone back to that

and I've never just let success rule my

life and take that over which I've

always been grateful for okay the fourth

decision was starting my own business I

started my own business when I was 21

years old it was actually a coaching

business helping other men solve the

problems that I had it's called

lifestyle transformations but I knew at

a young age that me working for someone

else was not in my cards that I just I

never wanted to work for someone else I

wanted to always be my own boss

I hated school I hated being told what

to do I hated being given an assignment

I just I always wanted to do my own

thing and be independent in that way and

make my own decisions I had jobs before

that and I hated those jobs I never

enjoyed working for someone else so I

knew that I wanted to be an entrepreneur

and when I was 21 I pursued that in that

decision to just go for I didn't have an

education in business I didn't know what

I was doing I just learned as I went I

learned what I needed to know I think

sometimes people they go to school this

is school they know way more than I do

about business but I just needed to

learn what I needed to know at that

stage of my business development you

know and I just would learn from courses

and books and seminars and coaches and

other people and learn that way and go

through that journey and so for me

starting a business and then eventually

my online business and going into

internet marketing changed everything

for me because it provided the lifestyle

that I live today it gave me confidence

where I never again have to worry about

money even if there even if I lost it

all I wouldn't be that worried because I

know I could always make it back I know

that the skills and the qualities I

cultivated as being an entrepreneur that

never goes away you can lose money but

you can't lose who you are and I learn

and grew and develop myself so many ways

and part of it too I learned eventually

that money and focusing on making more

money in my life would actually help me

progress all the other aspects of my

life that by having money that I could

have more time in my life okay because

by having

and having financial success I can hire

someone to clean my house to cook my

meals to take care of my kids to you

know have an assistant that does my

errands for me and the things I don't

want to do and I could buy back 40 hours

a week or many hours that normally an

average person would spend doing that

stuff I can have the time now to spend

on my relationship on my health on my

spirituality with my family and with my

kids I can cultivate and grow those

areas so much more than if I was trading

my time for money and had limited

resources I also realized that money

would help me improve my health that by

having money I can invest in the best

trainers the best coaches the best

supplements the best biohacking

equipment by having money could actually

enhance my relationship because by

having money you know a lot of marriages

that end in divorce they argue around

money my parents went to a divorce they

went to a bankruptcy it is because of

money so it would help my marriage and

my relationship but also it could you

know allow us to hire a nanny or someone

to take care of kids so that we can

spend more time on ourselves in our

relationship that we could you know high

relationship coaches there's so much to

explore and do there that money could

provide for that so when I realized that

money would actually enhance my self

development I realized that I needed to

figure that out and master that and an

online business allowed me to do that

which changed my life in so many ways

allowed me to travel the world and just

do it just allowed me to amplify

everything else in my life in more ways

that I never could have if I didn't have

an online business

okay the next and fifth decision that I

made was volunteering volunteering

changed my life it changed my life

because it got me out of myself and

taught me how to be selfless a more

generous more giving to live more in

abundance now I started kind of giving

when I was in my early 20s because I

realized that I had a scarcity mentality

I was always afraid of losing money not

having enough money and I didn't have

much money at that stage of my life but

I realized that a scarcity mentality was

limiting me from having more money that

my hands were closed and I was closing

myself off and I needed to open them and

be okay with

leasing money and spending money and

investing money and knowing that with my

hands open it'll flow back to and I can

receive more in my life

and so one thing that I did was I

realized it's not how much money you

give it's the habit the habit is more

important than the amount so I started

when I was young just giving 10 cents 25

cents to a homeless person every day

training my mind to be a giver and then

eventually more in my mid-20s I ended up

going on volunteer trips and I got

really passionate about building schools

and houses and so what really changed my

life was more the decision going to the

countries and actually volunteering in

that country and build a house or school

for a family so the first volunteer trip

that I did was to El Salvador as with

this organization called techo and then

another one called journey is what

they're called today used to be called

change heroes and we went there and we'd

build a house for a family and we'd

build a whole community for them and

volunteers all of that would come in and

do this and be three thousand dollars to

build a house that changed my life

especially when you give the house to

the family it was the most emotional

powerful moment of my life or one of

them and it just brought so much joy to

my life in so many ways I did it again

in Nicaragua I did it again in Kenya and

Ethiopia building schools there and I've

done it you know I haven't gone to these

countries yet to volunteer but I've

built schools in India Ecuador and other

places as well over ten schools now ten

houses been really proud of that and

it's really changed my life because it

just taught me it brought so much more

meaning and joy to my life

it taught me as Tony Robbins says that

the secret to living is giving and that

when you give it does give something

back to you and one one thing that it's

done for me is I used to beat myself up

a lot or be affected by weather people

say if they judge criticize me on

YouTube for example never now not

anymore not anymore because really what

it's done is this really boosted my

self-esteem and my confidence and my

security myself so I never get hard on

myself I never beat myself up and say

Stefano you didn't do this today or you

didn't do that I know how much I've done

in the world and how much good that I

feel that I've brought to the world and

what I've given I know that every day in

Ethiopia Kenya El Salvador Nicaragua

that these families because I built a

house for them and a school for them

they thank me they pray for me they

bless me they don't know me as a

youtuber and as you guys do but they

just love me cuz some random person from

Canada came to their country and loved

and cared about them to give to them and

to know that I'm loved in that way they

pray and love me every single day of my

life has brought so much joy to my life

and so much security that I can do no

wrong in hell someone makes fun of me or

judges me or criticize me on YouTube

that doesn't matter to me because I know

I know what I've done and what really

matters to the end of the day is when

you look yourself in the mirror you know

the truth you got to live with the

shadow that follows you and I know I

know the quality of person that I am and

and I never am hard on myself or down on

myself because of that so it's really

done wonders for my self-esteem and

confidence okay number six decision was

quitting pornography and masturbation

quitting porn and masturbation so when I

was younger I may not even remember when

I was first exposed to pornography but

I'd say around 13 years old was one of

the first times you know going through

puberty and my hormones changing and

getting exposed to pornographic material

and masturbation and throughout high

school and especially in the world of

the Internet growing up with it I think

a generation of people who grew up in

the internet way more easy access to

pornography than our parents or

grandparents did but when I first got

into it I didn't know what it was I

didn't know the effects of it the

consequences of it I used it as a way

with benefit with ways to relieve stress

and anxiety to help me sleep at night to

relieve tension that I had and I thought

there was some benefit behind it but

once I once I started to have awareness

of it and that's because of self

development by the way because I had an

open mind I soared to explore this more

one I realized this was an addiction but

I couldn't stop that if I tried to go a

week or more or thought pornography or

masturbation it was really really hard

to do that

it became a crutch in my life and then

what I realized I read books like your

brain on porn and there's communities

now nofap community that educate other

men and women as well the affects of

this but I started to relate to a lot of

the symptoms that I had

I remember at times when I was single I

struggled with performance issues with

erectile dysfunction and I couldn't

understand why I remember times and

early on being in relationships and I

couldn't commit to one person you know I

just wanted to jump to the next person

the next person because I was always

looking for the variety and and when I

was with someone I'd lose attraction for

them over time because I was

conditioning my brain to be attracted to

a scream and be aroused by a variety of

women and situations and fantasies on a

screen that did not exist in reality and

so here I'd be with a woman in reality

and I couldn't be intimate I couldn't

connect

I had to fantasize off in the future to

be aroused because I couldn't be aroused

and turned on and stimulated by the

reality of the moment and then what

happened was I realized how I'd end up

having these days where I'd be tired and

struggle with my energy and then I just

feeling anxiety and depression and just

lack any motivation and like any drive

in my life I felt lazy and it always

procrastinate and I just felt numb you

know like I just was so hard to feel

just happiness and joy and you know I

just feel excited about my life and

gratitude and I realized later on

through studying the brain and

neurotransmitters that I was over

stimulating my dopamine levels to such

high extremes through masturbation

orgasm and pornography that I was

crashing with dopamine and when your

dopamine is low you feel all these

negative symptoms and you're looking for

more things to bring yourself back up

so you're you turn to porn or to junk

food or to whatever it is to bring it

back up and it just caused so many

issues in life that I went down the

rabbit hole and I was like man I got to

eliminate this in my life and reset and

detox my brain from this and that

changed my life in so many ways has

changed my relationships change my

mental and I'm a mo

I'll state my happiness my business my

success one of the most important

decisions I ever made in my life so for

men and women if you want to go down

that rabbit hole

I implore you to do so and to look it up

and do research and go down your own

journey with that

okay the next important decision that I

made was committing my life to starting

mourning rituals and having a ritual

that I do every day of my life I've been

doing mourning rituals for over 16 years

when I first discovered it when I was 17

years old Tony Robbins shared his hour

of power and that started me down that

path and morning rituals has changed my

life because I've been able to condition

myself through what I do every day what

you do every day is what you become and

for me I'd spend my mornings per tossing

myself and building a powerful

relationship with me at giving myself

love every day as an act of self-love

and building myself up and when I put

myself the best version of myself the

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