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hey everyone this is stefan from

projectlifemastery.com and to Dan being

joined by my beautiful girlfriend

Tatyana and today we're gonna talk to

you guys about jealousy how to overcome

jealousy in a relationship something

that I know that a lot of people go

through and a lot of people deal with

and Tatiana and I have been together now

for over 4 plus years and I can honestly

say within that time frame that there's

partly been any moments that I can think

of of actually having jealousy in our

relationship and I think vice-versa

and there's certain things that we want

to explain to you guys that that allow

us to be so confident in our

relationship certain principles that can

allow you to be more confident in

yourself because I think it's important

to understand that jealousy all it

really is is fear it's a fear-based

emotion it's insecurity and oftentimes

that has nothing to do with the other

person you know you might see the other

person getting all this attention from

someone or maybe someone approached that

person or have you know you see that

person with someone else

having an interaction and it evokes a

certain emotion within you it makes you

feel insecure it makes you feel jealous

it elicits an emotional reaction from

you and one thing that I've learned is

that oftentimes when these external

events happen in our lives and they

elicit these emotional responses within

us it's our job to explore that it's our

job to really look at ourselves not

blame the other person oh my god

you know you can't wear that or you got

approached by this person why were you

talking to that person that only further

perpetuates the problem and actually

makes you less attractive to that a

person it creates more conflict instant

when you take a step back and you look

at yourself and you ask yourself why am

I feeling this way what about this

triggered me to respond and react in

this way where is this fear coming from

what is this fear you define it you

identify you find out what's going on

within you because in life you can't

control the external world there's

always going to be things are going to

happen around you have

control of whatsoever you have no

control over the weather you have no

control over whether that person cuts

you off in traffic you have no control

over the economy only the only thing you

have control over is your inner world

and how you you react and respond to

these things so if someone you know does

something or says something and it

triggers you to feel angry or frustrated

or insecure jealous that's something

that you're responsible for that you

have to look at how you can overcome

that how can you overcome this fear and

what's going on within you so that you

can improve it because I believe that we

can improve any aspect of ourselves any

aspect of our lives and it really what

it does is these moments they shine a

spotlight on our weaknesses our

insecurities or fears for us to have the

opportunity to overcome them and grow

from them you know tatianna is obviously

a very beautiful person and she gets

approached all the time you know we go

public and you know you'd get approached

almost every day by someone and she has

a lot of people you know look at her and

stare at her and you know even online of

course you had people leave certain

comments and she's also an online

influencers so she gets a lot of DMS and

you know inappropriate things and all

that sort of stuff from guys and you

know for me I think there's there's a

few different factors that we'll discuss

that

don't make me feel jealous about that in

any way shape or form

and I think the first thing is

confidence in you first and foremost

when you have confidence and who you are

you know your value you know your worth

then oftentimes these things don't

affect you that much and there's a

difference between it kind of sounds a

little bit egotistical in a way but I

think there's a difference between

confidence and arrogance and I'll

describe what that is but I just have a

confidence within myself that I'm worth

it that I have a lot of value that I can

provide to Tatiana that nobody else can

I believe in in the connection that we

have the love that we have the passion I

again it sounds egotistical but I

believe that there's no better match on

this planet

her than me and I'm sure she feels the

exact same way because we just feel that

we we have such a soul connection that

is eternal in a way and whether that's

true or not I'm not sure maybe there is

someone better for both of us but that

belief empowers us it serves us in our

relationship it gives us that confidence

it gives us that that certainty and that

security in our relationship you know

one simple exercise that you can do to

kind of identify what your value is is

make a list write down what makes you

valuable what makes you a great catch

why are you special why what can you

offer your partner that nobody else can

and when you really realize that and you

understand your value oftentimes now you

don't live in scarcity you don't live in

fear you have an abundance mentality

that you believe that you know as the

saying goes that there's plenty of fish

in the sea if you know one doesn't work

out with one there's another one around

the corner it's it's it's that mindset

of confidence that I think that it

starts with you creating yourself and I

think that's also been the result of

doing exactly what I've shared with you

guys where you identify if you do have a

reaction what is that fear what is that

belief that's making you feel that way

and and overcoming it and there's a

million different self-improvement

strategies and techniques and things you

can do for that but constantly

overcoming those things and understand

it's not the other person it's you being

triggered and it could be an insecurity

to have getting hurt in the past that

you haven't resolved from maybe you

haven't forgiven someone that you know

broke your heart or cheated on you or

lie to you or whatever it is but you got

to understand the past does not equal

the future that just because something

happened a year ago or five years ago

ten years ago you can't keep living your

life in the past and so it's learning

just to have that emotional comfort that

emotional security and confidence in

yourself and when you evolve that often

times petty things like that don't

really affect you they don't really

bother you that much so I say first

having that confidence in you

mm-hmm yeah yeah and I mean likewise us

you know maybe Stefan too

and get as many inappropriate messages

as I do but he's a man and men have

needs and I think for a lot of men a big

need is variety and sevens in the

committed relationship but as a man you

know he may be attracted to some other

woman we might be out and he might be

looking at someone else or he might even

have desires for other woman and I could

easily get very jealous over something

like that or if he expressed that to me

I could lash out in anger and hurt and

resentment but I understand that it's a

need and I have so much confident in the

related confidence in the relationship

that it doesn't cause me to feel jealous

it doesn't there's so much trust built

up between us that if I see him having

an interest in someone else or just even

just looking at someone else I don't it

doesn't hurt me it doesn't affect me in

any way because I trust a relationship I

have confidence in our relationship and

I believe that you know if any desires

are to be you know taken seriously that

that would be communicated in the

relationship and when you have that type

of really great trust you're able to

communicate anything without fear of

being turned down without fear of being

mocked without fear of your girlfriend

getting angry at you so we know that

we're able to communicate whatever it is

that we need in the relationship and so

that just that even builds more trust

and it's kind of a ripple effect so so

there's just a huge confidence level

yeah because oftentimes the jealousy in

relationship not just being a you know

insecure person or fear-based person but

also if the relationship both people

they don't have a high level of

certainty they don't have that need of

certainty being met at a level 10 for

example because you know there's one

thing maybe it for another video but

there's six human needs that one thing

that Tony Robbins teaches there's a need

for certainty variety significance love

growth and contribution and certainty is

a very important one that if your level

of certainty in the relationship out of

scale from one to ten is a two or three

or four or five and you're not very

certain you don't have that security you

don't have that trust that bond that

connection then yeah if you have an

uncertain

they ship then you're gonna be affected

by these things a lot more they're gonna

be amplified but when you have level 10

certainty in relationship that you give

each other that reassurance that you

know that this person is gonna be in

your life forever this person you know

you know who they are you know their

soul you know their heart they know that

they you know are part of you and you're

a part of them

you don't really question it that much

you know you don't have those fears you

don't have those doubts you don't have

those worries and that's something that

in a relationship you have to build you

have to build that level of trust you

have to build that certainty that

confidence and one another you know for

me I just have so much certainty and

confidence

I'm not worried if tatianna is gonna

talk to another guy or anything like

that it doesn't affect me because I have

that certainty in the relationship and

vice versa so I think just creating that

certainty and that confidence in your

relationship with your partner and you

also touched on the communication piece

you know we have such a strong

relationship that we can communicate

anything there's nothing off off the

table we don't have any judgment and

that's why because if I have a certain

desire I have an issue I have a problem

I have a temptation or whatever it might

be

I don't feel shame and vice versa we

allow each other to to share express or

share and communicate it without the

shame without guilt because it's human

nature we all biologically have Eve to

think attracted wrong yeah yeah so we

have a safe place without judgment

without criticism where we allow each

other to talk and discuss it and to help

and serve each other to understand one

another and to help grow the

relationship if if I had a moment of

jealousy I would express that to her and

talk and knowing that she's not gonna

get mad and like what are you talking

about I wasn't but actually having that

safe place where you know I could say

hey you know this affected me this hurt

me whatever it is and you can talk about

discuss it and both grow from it and

actually when you do talk about things

and you just express them you know in a

safe place

you forgive each other

and the certainty which makes your

relationship stronger and that's the key

you're just it's always getting stronger

and stronger and stronger so you don't

really have to worry as much about those

things as they come up and just from a

female's perspective from my point of

view you know for me if he was to

approach me say you know Tatiana I have

been feeling attracted to other women

lately

well if now all of a sudden I react to

that and I say oh my gosh how dare you I

provide everything for you I do this and

that and I start yelling at him and

causing conflict an argument well all of

a sudden he's not gonna feel like he can

approach me with anything in the future

and so when he doesn't feel like he can

talk to me about it that's when things

happen where someone might go behind

your back or they just don't have that

trust built in the relationship so I

think it's very important to just

realize okay it's how I react to what's

being said right now it's how I'm

reacting to the situation it's not

what's happening it's my reaction to it

and so for me I just try and remind

myself that we're in a committed

relationship I love him he loves me we

have so much trust and we're partners

for life and no matter what comes about

let's just discuss it and coming from a

place of love and not a place of anger

and resentment and never just makes

someone feel guilty for the way they're

feeling because like I said he has means

I have needs and I should never feel

guilty for feeling a certain way yeah

and you know when you talk about things

as I said it builds more trust but when

you don't talk about things it hurts the

trust you know if Tatiana goes out and

you know she has it she's out with her

friends drinking or whatever and then

you know guys are approaching her and

they're trying to kiss her and they're

trying to like do inappropriate things

and all that you know she'll come back

chill chill you actually tell me about

your experiences you'll tell me oh hey

this guy you know came up to me in a

coffee shop and whatever and we don't

really there's no emotional reaction

from it in any way we just kind of like

laugh about or talk about it whatever

but I know that she's sharing these

things with me I'm not judging her for

sharing them or not getting upset I'm

not react

I'm not making her feel guilty or

anything like that and vice-versa so I

think the communication piece is so so

important and so powerful and one more

thing I want to share is just around an

abundance mentality this is something

that really served me and I've shared it

a few times before I actually learned

this from a great analogy from a mentor

of mine zan who taught me this early on

when I was 18 years old first learning

about dating and relationships and he

had this one analogy that really really

kind of opened up my eyes to a different

mindset in a relationship so the analogy

is like this a woman or a man is like a

butterfly that's landed in your hand

okay it's a beautiful butterfly it's

right there in her hands and it's

gorgeous it's it's amazing you want to

cherish it you want to appreciate it you

might want to curl up your fingers a

little bit to protect it from the wind

and that butterfly it's beautiful you

want to be with it and oftentimes what a

lot of people do when they have

attracted this person in their life a

man or a woman is they go like this and

they try to suffocate that person they

try to be jealous and insecure and all

these rules you can't do this you can't

do that where were you this weekend

where were you last night you didn't

call me back all this sort of stuff

right they suffocate it now if you do

that what's gonna happen to that

butterfly the butterfly is gonna be

trapped it's gonna be resentful it's

might even die might even leave and

that's the worst thing that you can do

when you have these emotions we have

this jealousy when you have these is is

that's what you see a lot of people do

they become overly protective they

become very strict they become

controlling of their partner very Dom

domineering of them and so instead what

I've learned is that butterfly you have

to just be okay and comfortable with

that butterfly just being there and that

butterfly it could leave that man or

woman they could leave you you have to

be okay with that though you have to be

comfortable with that because it's only

when someone has the freedom to leave

that they will stay

it's very important it's only when you

give someone the freedom to leave that

they will stay with you but if you don't

give them that freedom then that's the

beginning of the end right there so the

way that I view things is an abundance

Tatiana is her own person she has the

right to be happy

in life and that's what I want for her

if she would rather be happier with

someone else than me then I would I'd

want that for you if it ever came that

you want you're happier with someone

else I want you to be like I'm not

you're not like that you know it's like

you're not I'm not gonna inhibit your

happiness and I want you to be happy and

vice versa and bring her in that

relationship where you want the best for

each other

that I want her to be happy she has the

freedom to pursue happiness in her life

and vice versa we're not controlling or

not you know each other slaves or

anything like that when you give each

other that freedom and you had that

mindset I think it's it's very

empowering to support that person in

their own happiness and that joy and

having the abundance mentality in life

you know that everything always works

out and everything is abundance and not

living that fear and that scarcity and

that you know it's not to say that the

advice that we give you guys that you

might not get hurt again or that person

might you know you might trust that

person fully and have that certainty and

love them and they might still you know

break your heart or cheat on you or lie

to you or whatever it might be

and that's okay it's still having that

mentality that you know why it's better

to know early on and maybe end things

early on if it's not the right fit then

spending years with that person and then

later finding that out at a later point

so when you're not trying to control

things as much you're not trying to

control the outcome and you just allow

yourself to have that abundance

mentality and just love and support and

Trust it is scary from time to time but

the benefits and the rewards are far

more worth it because as the saying goes

it's better to have loved and lost than

to never have loved at all so you have

to be willing to take that that risk

yeah and I

what you said about you know Stefan is

his own person I'm my own person and I

don't put any rules or restrictions on

him he's his he's a human being he's an

adult he can make decisions for his

house so I don't say that you know you

can't go out drinking with your friends

or you can't do this on the weekend or

you can't be with that person or do this

with that person like he can decide what

he wants to do with his life and I

believe that he has enough maturity to

make the smart decisions based on his

values and based on the trust in our

relationships so by you know not putting

so many limitations on him it allows him

to be again more open with me so I feel

like that's an important thing in our

relationship because we don't tell each

other oh you can't do this in you can't

do that and I've been relationships

where that was the case where you know

you can't wear this or you can't look

like this or you can't go up past this

time and that's like extremely limiting

and that's when the butterfly first

crushed and that's when she wants to

leave and same thing with the mat you

know when you limit a man and you tell

him you can't do this and I don't want

you to do this well man never wants to

be told what to do and especially in a

relationship I think and so I don't tell

him what to do but I know he always

makes educated and smart decisions and

he he's yeah he's a committed person

each other the decision is that one

another makes yeah so hopefully you guys

enjoyed this video it can benefit you

guys but as we both discussed you know

it's just a constant growth growth of

yourself individually growth has a

relationship with your partner you know

always improving always growing you know

we've always gone to events and seminars

and reading books and trying to look at

ways even hiring coaches and what not so

that we can always improve our

relationship and improve ourselves and

when you have that level of trust and

that confidence that certainty in your

relationship and your partner just makes

life so much easier it's it's uh it's

just a lot happier so that's what we

wish for you guys and hopefully this

video can benefit you guys so if you

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for watching and we'll talk to you again

soon take care

you

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