hey guys Stefan here from project life
master comm and today I want to share
with you guys another important
distinction from what I've learned from
unleash the power within with Tony
Robbins which is the concept of the six
human needs this is a core concept that
Tony teaches at all's seminars all his
programs and it's there reasons why
every human being does what they do we
only have six reasons behind why we do
what we do we all have different beliefs
and values but our needs are the same as
human beings and so the first need that
feel secure to feel comfortable to feel
safe now we also have a need for
uncertainty for variety for excitement
for surprise now the challenge is that
you're totally certain every moment in
your life and you know what's gonna
happen when it's gonna happen you're
totally in control you'd be bored you'd
be very unfulfilled in fact you say the
path of comfort and certainty can be the
path of pain because you're stuck in
that comfort zone but we also have a
need for it so uncertainty is we're all
passions found it's all excitement is
surprise we need that as well so we need
both certainty and uncertainty we also
have a need for significance to feel
special unique important in some way we
have a need for connection and love you
know connection to love is its what
every human being once deep down inside
we have a need for growth because if you
don't grow you die and we also have a
need for contribution because everything
on this planet must contribute in some
way beyond itself otherwise it gets
eliminated by evolution so those are the
six human needs now the first four needs
certainty variety and uncertainty
significance connection and love those
are the means that the personality the
last two needs are the needs of the
spirit growth and contribution because
that's what really makes us fulfilled as
human beings now while we all have these
same needs and everything we do is to
meet these needs at least the first four
the last two you don't always meet for
example you might meet you know your
need for you know if you're binge eating
which is a challenge that I used to face
it's a way to meet my needs that's why I
kept doing it I'd met the need of
certainty because every time I'd eat
food I relax and feel comfortable
and a certain pleasure as well and it
also be a certain way to get out of
stress it also gave me a variety and
uncertainty because if I'm bored or I'm
a certain state if I eat it gives me a
state change it changes it gives me a
bit of a rush the sugar or whatever it
is will change my state it also meets my
need for connection and love in some way
maybe not love but connection for sure
because if you're binge eating
oftentimes it's a way to connect with
yourself it's a way that you're kind of
giving yourself a gift and connecting
with yourself now anytime that you that
any thought feeling or behavior meets at
least three of your needs on a high
level become an addiction for you and so
that's one example you the same thing
with smoking a lot of people and they
smoked it feel certain they get variety
from it you know they're connecting with
themselves violence is another important
thing also that means people's needs at
least the first four because you know
you can instantly feel significant if
you put a gun to someone's head you feel
certain they're gonna respond to you
this variety because it's different
every time and you might be connected to
you know the gang that you're in or
whatever it might be but the challenge
with knows detrimental detrimental
behaviors or thoughts or feelings is
they will never make you fulfill because
they don't allow you to grow or to give
and so again don't can meet something
can meet your needs of your personality
but what determines again what they're
really fulfilled or not is whether or
not it meets our need for growth and
growth and contribution you know in my
case you know things that meet the needs
for that you know that I'm addicted to
and I love is going to the gym when I go
to the gym I feel significant because I
mean you know my I feel like important
and everything by working out and it
enhances my life in so many ways I look
better have more confidence from it I
have certainty because every time I go
to the gym
I get in a state of just confidence
certainty I know just by following that
routine and adds certainty my life it
gives me in variety every time I do a
workout and I switch it up it's variety
it's different every time I'm connecting
with myself in a different way to you
because I'm also giving myself a gift
and I'm growing and improving myself and
I can also associate contribution to it
also because I view some of the goals
that I have as a way to inspire and
contribute to other people also so
I mean six of my needs under all at a
high level I can also get addicted to it
and it's a more empowering behavior or
thing in my life that just least my
needs in a better way so we all have
different behaviors and things we do to
meet our needs whether it's Facebook or
checking our email or social media and
it's really important to understand you
know why we do these things and how it's
meeting our needs and if there's
something that in your life that you
want to change identify what needs that
you're meeting by indulging that
behavior and find other more empowering
ways and more sustainable ways to meet
your needs and again there's always
something more sustainable and
empowering that you can do to meet your
needs in a more healthful way long term
now the other thing as well that
determines our life is how we order the
needs as well so for example we all have
these six needs but we also have a
different sequence of how we value and
prioritize these needs in our lives so
for example we all have two top needs
that are our driving force and this
controls the direction of our lives and
everything so for example most people in
North America about 80 percent in fact
their top two needs other than out of
the six is significance and certainty
okay now the problem is those are
actually the worst top two needs that
you can have in your life and I used to
have these as my top two needs until I
started to shift it about two years ago
when I went to date with destiny and
when you have significance as your top
need that you value the most and while
it might help you achieve a lot of great
things that become successful like it
has for me the problem is is that you
never get to be happy you never have
sustainable happiness because anytime
you achieve something it's never enough
and you're always comparing yourself to
other people in order to feel
significant so you always feel
insignificant when you compare yourself
to other people or you feel significance
so again it's not a sustainable level of
happiness and then with certainty the
reason why that's one of the worst needs
that also guarantees that you'll never
be happy is one when you're certain and
totally comfortable then you don't grow
when you don't grow you don't feel alive
you don't feel fulfillment and
everything right
also certainty forces you to have to
control
everything all the time and the problem
is is life is always gonna with
your certainty and sense of control so
you always have to have control over
things and even if you can control
everything it's gonna force you to live
in a very small world so that you can
have control of everything which again
is gonna prevent you from growing
because when you grow you have to deal
with uncertainty growth is uncomfortable
in many ways and it allows you to expand
and to give more so those are the worst
top two needs that you can have and
funny enough 80% of people in North
America have that and that's why most
people are so unhappy and so miserable
because they have those top two these as
their driving force the better needs
that you want to have you know that will
shape someone's life much differently
would be love and contribution which are
my top two needs that I focus on
conditioning now I still have a need for
significance I still have a need for
certainty I stopped in need all those
sort of things and it drive me and you
know that's part of the reason why I'm
successful and why I like to have nice
things and work out and do those sort of
things but it's not my driving force as
much as it used to be so you could still
have those needs but don't let them
drive you and so for me love and
contribution is more important for me
because when you have significance
before love then you believe that you
always have to be significant or do
something significant in order for you
to feel loved whereas if you have love
above significance then you'll just love
no matter what even if you're
insignificant or certainty if you have
certainty above love then oftentimes or
before contribution then you won't give
your love unless you feel serve
so if you're in a relationship if you
feel hind surgery and all of a sudden
all the love stops flowing none of you
or you'll stop giving so when you have
love or contribution above those needs
then you'll always love and give no
matter why it will be unconditional and
you also contribute beyond yourself and
you won't need certainty or significance
to do it so this is a
a concept is powerful stuff and I
understand right now if you might be
losing me a little bit or it might be a
little bit complex for you because he
spends like a whole day talking about
this and it's really deep stuff and you
know it's really enhanced my life with
so many ways and enhance my
relationships and everything because now
I've learned to understand why I do what
I do what's going on I can understand
when I meet people what are their top
two needs what they're valuing most and
when I know what someone's needs it are
I can help meet their needs an
empowering way which can help me connect
to people also so six human needs is
really powerful it really enhanced my
life in so many ways and I just want to
share that with you guys and focus on
the needs that can enhance your life and
enrich your life more such as love
contribution growth and variety and
excitement those are the more empowering
needs that gonna really enhance your
life especially growth a contribution
and that's one of the biggest things
I've learned just from being here again
to remind myself of that and even
reminding myself more to love more
putting that above things you know being
less focused on achievement or my own
needs as much but focus more on the
needs of others focus more on giving to
you guys and that's you know a powerful
way of my blog and everything I do is
become a lot less about money or
personal success or my own personal
interest but now on a daily basis I
think more about how I can give more to
other people by creating content
creating videos and doing this sort of
stuff to help and enrich your lives and
so that's been coming I'm new driving
force for me now and I'm always trying
to condition it and again I'm not
perfect I have need for significance as
well that drives me and sometimes I'm
selfish but I understand what I want my
top two needs are and I'm always trying
to condition and reinforce the person
that I want to be so hope this video can
help you in some way or community
insights on what the six human needs are
hope you enjoyed this video and I'll see
you in the next one
you
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